You want to be a Dominatrix for the night and want to know what steps to take to let your inner domme out? Read this post and you’ll be taking charge in no time.
Attitude
Like the title says…let your inner bitch out. Don’t be afraid to be mean, intuitive and filthy! The first and most important thing to remember is that you are in charge here and you need to assert your authority. In this role your partner is your play toy that you use for entertainment. Establish which level and kind of dominance that you partner wants. Some want pain, like getting smacked around, hit with whips or paddles or using light to heavy torture devices. Being restrained with things such as handcuffs, ropes and gags is also a form of pain dominance
Another form of dominance is dominating through humiliation which entails you do force the submitter to preform embarrassing acts such as acting like your pet dog and barking and panting to act the part.
Other humiliating acts such as having you the dominant one urinating, spitting, defecating on the submissive person may be something you both are into.
Sexual dominance also can be used. Making the submissive person into your own little sex slave can be enjoyable for both involved. A really popular sex act in SNM play is smothering. This is where the dominant person sits on the submissive persons face smothering them with their genitals. Getting the submitter to lick, suck, and kiss you where you demand them to also works. Some submissive men enjoy being penetrated anally by strap ons.
All these forms of dominance can be used in conjunction of separate of each other. Make it work for you and your partners needs. Some of you may be on the more intense side of dominance play while others just want to lightly dabble in it.
ALWAYS HAVE A SAFE WORD!
As a Dominatrix you may get extremely tied up in your role and may take things farther than wanted. A safe word is a word agreed upon by both parties which when said signals to stop immediately. Maybe the pain you are giving them is too much for them to handle.
This safe word allows a break in the role play for the issue to be fixed. I recommend using a weird word that can be differentiated from role playing or naughty talk for example cranberries or salsa. No one is going to get those words mixed up for sex talk.
Say it like you mean it
As for what to say… You have to be quick on your feet with dialogue. You can try practicing before hand on things you may want to ask your slave to do and say.
You can’t be shy, you have to stick with the role, and don’t worry about being mean! You’re supposed to be a bitch!
What are you going to call the submitter? Your slave? Your pet? These are things you actually have to decide.
Swearing and disgusting use of language are also a big plus. Talking down to them adds to the whole act of you being dominant.
Appearance: Look the part
A full body catsuit is a staple of domme wear. Corsets are also great for this costume. Wearing all black is also the most popular choice. Black is a sleek, sexy and strong color that goes well with your persona. Make sure the catsuit is made of PVC, leather, or rubber latex. Those are all materials that stick to the body like a second skin and show off all your feminine curves. Never forget your femininity just because you are in a dominant role.
Most commonly worn footwear for a Dominatrix are thigh high stiletto boots or platformed heels that make you super tall. Adding at least a minimum of 5 inches to your height makes you tower over your partner which also adds to the dominance.
Your accessories…
A whip or a riding crop work well. You can also keep a tool bag handy with everything you need to cause pain.
Go ahead ladies…show em’ who’s boss
Written By: Symone Nelson
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